The Importance of Transforming Stress and Building Resilience
“The last of the human freedoms is one’s ability to choose one’s attitude in a given set of circumstances.”
Viktor Frankl (1905-1997), psychiatrist, Holocaust survivor, and author of Man’s Search for Meaning.
You feel stressed, overwhelmed and tired. You are working long hours, including weekends and spending less time enjoying the company of family and friends.
You have the best intentions of looking after yourself but somehow your self-care activities never become your priority. You don’t always get restful sleep, you struggle to digitally switch off or take a proper break from work.
It feels like you are constantly juggling several balls and you really can’t afford to drop any of them. They are all too important and yet they leave you feeling frustrated and exhausted. There are so many competing priorities, too many deadlines and never-ending demands or your time.
On the outside, you put on a brave face. You do not want anyone to think you cannot cope. Besides everybody in your position is in the same boat. It goes with the territory, right?
On the inside you are thinking, I can’t go on like this and something needs to change, but I don’t know where to start or what to do?
Maybe you have accepted that this is your life or the nature of your role and admitting feeling stressed would be seen as a sign of weakness.
Maybe you are just too busy right now to do anything about it or maybe you aren’t even aware that you are stressed.
We all get stressed and we all experience stress in different ways. What might stress me out may be of no consequence to you. The stress you experience will lead you to feel a variety of emotions.
Everyday life is dictated by our emotions, much more than we are aware of. I often say, how you feel on a moment to moment basis, will be influenced by what you are thinking, what you are doing, who you are with and where you are.
As humans we go through a lot of stressful situations in our everyday lives. Work, relationships, health, family and finances are all aspects that enrich our lives and yet they can also take a heavy toll on our lives.
The fact is physiologically, when you are stressed, your brain and body are knocked out of balance and the fight or flight response is turned on, which signals the sympathetic (the accelerator) branch of the autonomic nervous system. This then activates the adrenal glands to produce adrenaline and cortisol. This rush of energy enables you to deal with the perceived or real threat. It could be your unsupportive boss, a difficult client, or a looming deadline.
Under normal circumstances, once this perceived or real threat has passed, the body will return to balance when the parasympathetic (the brake) branch of the autonomic nervous system is activated, and your body and brain return to a state of calm, rest and recovery.
The problem arises when acute stress becomes chronic stress, which now means you are living in stress all the time. Many people are unable to find a way to put the brakes on stress and the research indicates that in the medium to long term this leads to health problems, burnout and breakdown.
Nothing changes until YOU change.
What if I told you that your emotions are just reactions and that you have the capacity to choose your emotional response to the many stressors that you may encounter.
You don’t have to be a victim of life. There are no emotions that are bad or wrong. They provide feedback on how we experience life and how we are feeling in the moment.
Some of our emotions renew us and enhance our quality of life. Other emotions deplete us and diminish our vitality and health.
Nothing changes until YOU change how you think, behave and feel about all aspects of your life. Your thoughts and emotions create your personal reality and overtime how you think and feel become unconscious habits and stories you tell yourself. The question is do your habits and stories support or sabotage your personal effectiveness, wellbeing and success?
To change you must first become more self-aware. Self-awareness is the first step to transforming stress and building personal resilience.
There are many tools, techniques and strategies that can support you to build personal resilience. However, if you are looking for overnight success or quick fixes, I probably won’t be able to support you. If you are prepared to do the work by making small daily changes to support sustained personal changes, I definitely can work with you.
We all have our stories for why we are the way we are and why change is difficult. We are too busy, we don’t have enough time, challenging childhood, unsupportive parents, difficult upbringing, family priorities, not enough money or resources, self-limiting beliefs etc.
The fact is nothing changes until YOU change. It is a personal choice. What choice will you make to change your life?
You can do these exercises at work, sitting at your desk or even whilst driving. Each session with Daksha was very clear and concise and I always felt at ease and calm and much more knowledgeable after each session.
Daksha has a real gift in teaching, with her calm and professional manner, she puts you at ease and really helps you understand the work you are doing and the benefits you’ll receive. If, at any point, I did not understand anything, Daksha would always follow this up with a really good example.
I would highly recommend Daksha to anyone looking to have any of her training sessions. I’m already thinking of booking more sessions on other courses Daksha provides.
I really feel this has helped me in my personal and professional life in handling situations and being mindful of my behaviors and responses.
Thank you Daksha for showing me how to lead a more fulfilling life.